How to improve Self-Esteem

Self-esteem is one of the most valuable qualities a person can have. If you believe in your skills and abilities then you are more likely to achieve goals you set for yourself, which leads to greater rewards. The lack of self-esteem, or self-belief, can cause many problems in your life.

Why do I have low self-esteem?

Most people have low self-esteem because of their early childhood experiences. If parents, or teachers, were constantly putting you down, or telling you that you won’t amount to anything, then it’s hardly surprising that you will feel worthless now that you are an adult. These experiences will be stored as limiting beliefs in your subconscious mind and, even if you don’t think about your childhood, they will still be affecting all aspects of your life now that you are an adult. It is hard to remove limiting beliefs, once they have fixed themselves inside the part of your mind that governs your thoughts, feelings and life in general.

How can I improve my self-esteem?

You can start to improve your self-esteem by stopping and thinking when you catch yourself using hurtful words towards yourself. If you find yourself thinking how fat and ugly you are, for example, change these words to something more comforting, such as 'I am slim and beautiful'. This is the first step. The next step is to write down some positive affirmations. They are always written in the present tense and contain positive words that describe how you'd like to be. If you lack confidence, you can say, 'I am a confident, successful woman', for example. Keep saying your affirmations to yourself at least ten times per day. You can say it quietly, inside your head or you can say it out loud. You can even record them and play them on your mp3 player as you go about your daily activities, or just before you go to sleep. Once you have done this for a while, you should be feeling better; however, the conscious mind will know that you are telling little white lies, and you'll need to do even more...

Next steps to improving self-esteem...

If you aren't sure what I'm talking about here, you can read my other posts about your mind and how it works, to give you a more detailed explanation. In order to improve your self-esteem on a more permanent basis, you will need to let your subconscious mind know that you have changed the way you see yourself. The best way to do this is through self-hypnosis or subliminal meditation.

What is subliminal meditation?

Subliminal meditation is when affirmations are sent directly to your subconscious mind without the conscious mind knowing you aren't telling the truth. Let me explain...if you are overweight and you've been repeating the affirmation, 'I am slimmer than I've ever been', then your logical, conscious mind will know this isn't true...But, if you send this affirmation to your subconscious mind without your conscious mind knowing, then you will start to change your body image, first mentally and emotionally and then it will manifest in reality. There are many subliminal meditations you can watch for free on Youtube. The best ones use binaural beats to put your mind into a meditative state so that the subliminal affirmations can go directly to the subconscious, where they're needed.

You can get subliminal meditation videos and mp3s for all aspects of self-development from increasing confidence to earning more money. Why not visit Youtube and take a look. I like the igodmind channel. I often use some of these videos when I work on my own self-development and I have noticed significant improvements after watching them.

Love,

Mochira X

Removing Limiting Beliefs to improve your life.

When I talked about the power of thought, in a previous post, I mentioned that it was a long, complicated topic, which needed a lot more than just one post.

I am going to be talking to you, today, about limiting beliefs. You may not be aware of it, but there are negative beliefs stored in your subconscious mind.

These negative beliefs can undermine anything you try to do, without you even knowing. Negative beliefs are also known as limiting beliefs, because they limit your opportunities.

How are limiting beliefs formed?

When you are younger, you are inexperienced and rely on those in authority to teach you what's right and wrong. Unfortunately, your young mind is like a sponge; it soaks up everything it can - this includes negative words and situations.

I will give you an example, to explain this further. Perhaps, when you were at school, a teacher told you that 'you're such a stupid child!'. Although this doesn't happen today, it did happen in the 70s and 80s. Hearing that would have made you feel bad. If you had then gone home and your parents said something similar, you would then start to think you were stupid. Even though you are now an adult and don't remember this part of your life, as much, this limiting belief will have been stored in your subconscious and it will be continuing to have a negative effect on your life. Perhaps you don't apply for jobs that you would be perfect for, because deep down inside, you still feel stupid. Maybe you have issues with authority and prefer to work for yourself. These are just some of the ways that something that happened as a child can affect your life today.

Limiting beliefs can also be formed when you soak up impressions from your surroundings. Perhaps, as a child, you saw your parents constantly argueing, and although you weren't entirely sure what they were argueing about, you often heard the word 'money' mentioned. This may have caused you to have negative beliefs about money. Now you're an adult, you may have a limiting belief that money is bad or that you can't have a good relationship unless you have a lot of money. It is strange how the mind can work.

How can I get rid of my limiting beliefs?

If you think that there are limiting beliefs affecting your life, today, then there are ways you can try to get rid of them. We are all human and therefore, it is likely that most of you reading this do have some underlying issue that can be resolved.

One of the first things to do is to look at your current life situation. Is there anything you're not happy with? Do you keep repeating the same patterns over and over? Do you keep telling yourself you're not good enough or do you find yourself thinking other negative thoughts throughout your day?

Get a piece of paper and write down everything you're not happy with and any repeating patterns in your life, including negative thoughts that you have about yourself or situations. For example, if you keep telling yourself that 'people can't be trusted' it is likely that you find yourself meeting people who aren't trustworthy. You need to break this pattern and change this belief.

To do this, you will need to change the negative belief into a positive affirmation. So, instead of thinking  'people can't be trusted' change this to 'People can be trusted'. Say this to yourself several times a day, or write it down somewhere prominent and look at it as often as you can.

You can also try meditation. I will be talking about this more in future posts but, clearing your mind for even a few minutes a day, can help to clear a lot of worries and negative thoughts out of your mind.

I like to use subliminal videos to clear my blockages. This is because, the best way to change your underlying beliefs, is to try to get positive affirmations into your subconscious without the conscious interfering. If you keep telling yourself that 'I am rich', your conscious mind will know that it isn't true, if you aren't rich, and will attempt to block your attempts at changing your thought patterns. Using subliminal videos can help counteract this.

I am embedding a video that I use regularly. Give it a go. It is essential that you use headphones for this as it uses binaural beats, which help you get into a meditative state, which is the best state to be in when trying to work with the subsconscious.

I hope this help and l look forward to hearing from you if you have any positive changes in your life, after doing these exercises.

Click on this link to access your free subliminal video

Free Subliminal Training Video

Love,

 

Mochira X

 

The Power Of Thought on your life

 

Hi Guys,

I want to speak to you today, about the power of thought. You may not be aware of it, but everything you have in your life right now, was brought to you by the power of your thoughts.

This may sound strange, but it's true. It's quite a lengthy, complicated subject to talk about in one blog post and so I will be writing many more posts on this subject, so that you understand it better; however, for now, I want to give you an overview of just how powerful your thoughts are. If you are constantly thinking negative things, such as 'I never have enough money' or 'I'm too fat to get a boyfriend' then this is what will happen to you in reality. This becomes a vicious circle as you then have 'proof' that your thoughts were right.

The next time you find yourself thinking something negative, I suggest you turn it around into a positive statement, which is sometimes referred to as a positive affirmation. So, if you find yourself thinking, or telling somebody, that you never have enough money, change the thought to 'I always have more than enough money'. You will probably feel strange doing this, because you know that it isn't true, but by doing this regularly, you will start to see some positive changes happening in your life.

I am going to be writing many more articles on this topic but, for now, I just wanted to give you an overview. If there is one thing you can do to start improving your life, it's turning negative thoughts into positive affirmations.

I would love to hear how you get on with this. I enjoy reading positive and uplifting stories and I encourage you all to share your experiences on this website - just add a comment!

I will leave it here for now and I will be back soon with some more self-help goodies!

Take care.

Love,

 

Mochira X