How to improve Self-Esteem

Self-esteem is one of the most valuable qualities a person can have. If you believe in your skills and abilities then you are more likely to achieve goals you set for yourself, which leads to greater rewards. The lack of self-esteem, or self-belief, can cause many problems in your life.

Why do I have low self-esteem?

Most people have low self-esteem because of their early childhood experiences. If parents, or teachers, were constantly putting you down, or telling you that you won’t amount to anything, then it’s hardly surprising that you will feel worthless now that you are an adult. These experiences will be stored as limiting beliefs in your subconscious mind and, even if you don’t think about your childhood, they will still be affecting all aspects of your life now that you are an adult. It is hard to remove limiting beliefs, once they have fixed themselves inside the part of your mind that governs your thoughts, feelings and life in general.

How can I improve my self-esteem?

You can start to improve your self-esteem by stopping and thinking when you catch yourself using hurtful words towards yourself. If you find yourself thinking how fat and ugly you are, for example, change these words to something more comforting, such as 'I am slim and beautiful'. This is the first step. The next step is to write down some positive affirmations. They are always written in the present tense and contain positive words that describe how you'd like to be. If you lack confidence, you can say, 'I am a confident, successful woman', for example. Keep saying your affirmations to yourself at least ten times per day. You can say it quietly, inside your head or you can say it out loud. You can even record them and play them on your mp3 player as you go about your daily activities, or just before you go to sleep. Once you have done this for a while, you should be feeling better; however, the conscious mind will know that you are telling little white lies, and you'll need to do even more...

Next steps to improving self-esteem...

If you aren't sure what I'm talking about here, you can read my other posts about your mind and how it works, to give you a more detailed explanation. In order to improve your self-esteem on a more permanent basis, you will need to let your subconscious mind know that you have changed the way you see yourself. The best way to do this is through self-hypnosis or subliminal meditation.

What is subliminal meditation?

Subliminal meditation is when affirmations are sent directly to your subconscious mind without the conscious mind knowing you aren't telling the truth. Let me explain...if you are overweight and you've been repeating the affirmation, 'I am slimmer than I've ever been', then your logical, conscious mind will know this isn't true...But, if you send this affirmation to your subconscious mind without your conscious mind knowing, then you will start to change your body image, first mentally and emotionally and then it will manifest in reality. There are many subliminal meditations you can watch for free on Youtube. The best ones use binaural beats to put your mind into a meditative state so that the subliminal affirmations can go directly to the subconscious, where they're needed.

You can get subliminal meditation videos and mp3s for all aspects of self-development from increasing confidence to earning more money. Why not visit Youtube and take a look. I like the igodmind channel. I often use some of these videos when I work on my own self-development and I have noticed significant improvements after watching them.

Love,

Mochira X

Understanding self-development

Self-development or self-improvement has become very popular, lately. There are countless self-help books available and many internet gurus are emerging that aim to help people totally change their lives.

All of these things are great, but maybe you feel overwhelmed by the amount of resources available to you and you don't know where to start.

If you want to start improving yourself, then I suggest you firstly think about what aspect of yourself you'd like to change.  I believe that everybody is capable of achieving whatever it is they want to achieve. Anything is possible, if you believe it.

If you have read a lot of my previous work, you will know that I am passionate about the power of belief. Your beliefs are so important. If you believe something will happen, then it most likely will. Research has shown that patients who were given placebos instead of real medicine, made the same, or greater, improvements in their health than those patients who were given real medication. Doctors state that this was because those patients believe they were getting real medication. They expected to be cured and they were.

If you want to improve any aspect of yourself or your life, then it all starts with believing you can change and improve. There are many ways you can work on your self-development, from reading books to attending courses. You could work alongside a life coach, who will motivate you to make positive changes in your life, or you could watch self-development videos or listen to mp3s that aim to work on your subconscious mind, so improvements are made to your thoughts and belief system.

There is always something we can do to develop ourselves, whether it's learning a new language or attending assertiveness classes. Find out what it is that's holding you back and see if there is a book, course or other resource that will help you to do this. We should never stop learning - it keeps our brains active and gives us something to work for. We should all have goals that we're working towards as it gives us the motivation to get up in the morning.

Research has shown that people who retire often end up depressed or they experience a rapid decline in health. I think this is because they don't have any reason to get out of bed. Their job gave them something to do and, unless they replace this with something else, it is easy to get into a state of inertia.

Try not to do too much at once, find the most crucial area you feel needs developing or improving and work on that first. You will then have the confidence to move onto any other areas that you feel may be holding you back from achieving the life of your dreams.