Self-esteem is one of the most valuable qualities a person can have. If you believe in your skills and abilities then you are more likely to achieve goals you set for yourself, which leads to greater rewards. The lack of self-esteem, or self-belief, can cause many problems in your life.
Why do I have low self-esteem?
Most people have low self-esteem because of their early childhood experiences. If parents, or teachers, were constantly putting you down, or telling you that you won’t amount to anything, then it’s hardly surprising that you will feel worthless now that you are an adult. These experiences will be stored as limiting beliefs in your subconscious mind and, even if you don’t think about your childhood, they will still be affecting all aspects of your life now that you are an adult. It is hard to remove limiting beliefs, once they have fixed themselves inside the part of your mind that governs your thoughts, feelings and life in general.
How can I improve my self-esteem?
You can start to improve your self-esteem by stopping and thinking when you catch yourself using hurtful words towards yourself. If you find yourself thinking how fat and ugly you are, for example, change these words to something more comforting, such as 'I am slim and beautiful'. This is the first step. The next step is to write down some positive affirmations. They are always written in the present tense and contain positive words that describe how you'd like to be. If you lack confidence, you can say, 'I am a confident, successful woman', for example. Keep saying your affirmations to yourself at least ten times per day. You can say it quietly, inside your head or you can say it out loud. You can even record them and play them on your mp3 player as you go about your daily activities, or just before you go to sleep. Once you have done this for a while, you should be feeling better; however, the conscious mind will know that you are telling little white lies, and you'll need to do even more...
Next steps to improving self-esteem...
If you aren't sure what I'm talking about here, you can read my other posts about your mind and how it works, to give you a more detailed explanation. In order to improve your self-esteem on a more permanent basis, you will need to let your subconscious mind know that you have changed the way you see yourself. The best way to do this is through self-hypnosis or subliminal meditation.
What is subliminal meditation?
Subliminal meditation is when affirmations are sent directly to your subconscious mind without the conscious mind knowing you aren't telling the truth. Let me explain...if you are overweight and you've been repeating the affirmation, 'I am slimmer than I've ever been', then your logical, conscious mind will know this isn't true...But, if you send this affirmation to your subconscious mind without your conscious mind knowing, then you will start to change your body image, first mentally and emotionally and then it will manifest in reality. There are many subliminal meditations you can watch for free on Youtube. The best ones use binaural beats to put your mind into a meditative state so that the subliminal affirmations can go directly to the subconscious, where they're needed.
You can get subliminal meditation videos and mp3s for all aspects of self-development from increasing confidence to earning more money. Why not visit Youtube and take a look. I like the igodmind channel. I often use some of these videos when I work on my own self-development and I have noticed significant improvements after watching them.