Some of you may be sceptical, when it comes to using the Law of Attraction to bring things into your life. As I've said before, unless you truly believe you can attract something, you won't get it and this will further fuel your disbelief.
If you are starting to think that there may be something in this, after all, then you can begin testing the Law of Attraction. To do this, you ask for something small, such as a 20 pence piece. Imagine that you are going to find this 20p on a pavement. Picture it in your mind, just lying there, waiting for you to find it. The clearer you picture it, the more likely it is to manifest quicker. Once you have done this for a few minutes, know that you will find it. You can give the Universe a time limit, but when you first start it is enough just to imagine it and know you will get it.
The next part is very important - forget about it. Once you have spent some time imagining it and knowing you will receive it, forget about it.
When I first did this, I was surprised at how quickly it worked. When I saw it on the pavement, I realized that I'd manifested it, but I had forgotten all about it until I saw it glistening in the sunlight.
You can do this with anything. The more you do this with small things, the more you will start to believe in this spiritual law and you will then be able to ask for the things you want, but didn't think you could have.
The universe doesn't judge you. It is just as easy for the Universe to send you £200 as it is for it to send you 20p; but, as most people don't think think they will be given £200 out of thin air, they only tend to expect smaller rewards.
Have a go and see what happens. It is important that you believe it will happen and that you don't keep thinking about it for too long - forget about it and let the Universe do its work.
I would love to hear how you get on.
Love Mochira x
Saturday, 23 November 2013
Some of you may be sceptical, when it comes to using the Law of Attraction to bring things into your life. As I've said before, unless you truly believe you can attract something, you won't get it and this will further fuel your disbelief.
Monday, 4 November 2013
It all depends on whether or not you believe in astrology, but I believe that eclipses can affect us all on some level.
Astrologers believe that eclipses are very powerful planetary events that signify big changes. These changes can be ones we initiate ourselves; however, a lot of the time they are unexpected changes that are thrust upon us to force us to take a look at our lives.
If you are following your true path, then an eclipse will probably not cause too many issues for you, but you may still find yourself being asked to help others who have been affected by an eclipse.
If you have been fighting changes that you know will be better for you, but you are too scared to make them, an eclipse can sometimes make those changes for you. For example, if you've been stuck in a soul-destroying job that you only do because you need the money and you'd really like to set up your own business helping others, an eclipse can often lead to you losing this job, giving you the opportunity to set up your own business. So, while this may seem like the end of the world at the time, it can lead to a better future.
There was an eclipse in Scorpio yesterday. If you are a Scorpio or have a Scorpio ascendant, then you will probably feel this eclipse more than most. Fortunately, this eclipse had lots of positive planets involved and so there should be some positive changes coming up in your future.
Thursday, 31 October 2013
I have often wondered why we celebrate Halloween and so, I decided to do some research and share it with you. Here is what I found...
In the olden days, people used to celebrate New Year’s eve on the 31st October. It symbolized the end of Summer and the beginning of Winter.
This changed over the years and the church decided to use the 1st November as a special day dedicated to all the saints. This is now known as All Saints’ Day. The night before was known as ‘All Hallow’s eve’ or the night before All Saints’ Day.
Pagans celebrated a festival called Samhain on the 31st October. They believed that the veil between Earth and the Spirit World was thinnest on this night and they tried to communicate with their ancestors and deceased loved ones.
Nowadays, there is more emphasis on fun than fear as children love dressing up and going ‘trick or treating’ which is a modern day version of ‘Souling’. In medieval times, poorer people would sing songs and say prayers for the dead in exchange for cakes.
Halloween is also a time for superstition. Here are some of the most popular..
- Peel an apple and throw it over your shoulder - it should form the shape of a letter – this represents the first initial of your future spouse.
- Ring a bell to scare ghosts away
- Pour some salt on a piece of bread and carry it with you for protection as you travel on Halloween
- Put an apple underneath your pillow to dream of your future husband
- Carve a pumpkin and light it with a candle – leave outside your house to scare away evil spirits.
- Bob apple – put some apples in a bowl of water and try to grab one with your teeth. Don’t use your hand. The size of the apple represents the size of your future wealth.
Remember, all of these superstitions are just that – superstitions! They are not meant to be taken seriously. They are just a bit of fun for Halloween.
Have fun and be careful!
I wish you all a Happy Halloween,
Saturday, 26 October 2013
Just to let you know that I have published my little book of youthfulness today, on Amazon. I am also going to be publishing it on Smashwords so that it will be distributed to other online retailers, such as iTunes and Barnes and Noble, amongst others.
If you have already read my previous, now unpublished ebook, 'Staying Young', then please don't purchase my new ebook as it just focuses on using Mind Power to help with the anti-aging process and I haven't really added that much new information. As discussed in one of my previous posts, I decided to focus purely on mind power for this book, rather than going into depth with other, more commonly known, anti-aging methods.
I made this decision as I felt that the 'New Age' visualization aspect of the 'Staying Young' book, wasn't for everybody and may have put people off. My new eBook makes it clear that the anti-aging information contained inside is for those who have an open mind, shall we say!
If you haven't read my previous eBook, then you may with to buy a copy of my new eBook. Once it is published properly, I will be adding it to my eBook catalogue on this website. I believe that you can prevent, or even reverse, aging by using the power of your mind. It certainly hasn't done me any harm! People are always guessing my age as much younger than I really am and I feel great. I have lots of energy and I believe that optimism and enjoying life are also key factors in looking and feeling younger.
Sunday, 20 October 2013
I just wanted to say how much I love Autumn. Aside from the fact it’s my birthday time, I enjoy that special feeling in the air. I think it’s the only season that has a ‘feel’ to it. I love the bright-coloured orange, red and yellow leaves on the trees, and I enjoy the sound of the crunching under my feet, even more! I don’t know what it is, but it makes me feel like a child again.
I love it when the nights start drawing in and I can snuggle up by the fire or take a warm, candle-lit bath. Halloween and Bonfire night are Autumn festivals that bring people outdoors and brighten up the dark nights. I enjoy going to my local fireworks display every year and eating toffee apples.
These are just some of the reasons why I love Autumn, but love it or not, you can’t argue that there’s something about this time of year that makes you think about starting over. I don’t know whether it’s because the new school term starts, after the long Summer break, or if it’s to do with the crispness in the air, but I often use this time of year to take stock of my life and make plans for the year ahead.
How to set goals
If you want to set yourself some goals, now is a great time. If you wait until the New year, you have more chance of failing (according to research) so why not give it a go in Autumn?
Choose one major goal that will change your life for the better. Write it down. Set a timescale for achievement. Be realistic – if you want to lose five stone before Christmas, there is a chance that you may not be able to do this safely. Why not adjust your goal, so that it is more achievable within the timescale you’ve allocated.
Your goal should also be measurable. You should know when you’ve achieved it. If your goal is to lose weight, then you can measure this by using weighing scales. You will know you’ve achieved it when you are lighter on the scales. Some goals are less straightforward, though. I will be writing more about these types of goals in my new book and coaching course.
Break down larger goals into smaller steps and make sure you do something every day to bring you closer to achieving your goal.
Friday, 18 October 2013
I wanted to discuss Graphology, today. It’s been around for some years now and is a useful tool for understanding what makes people tick. It is the study of handwriting. Researchers have looked at several different types of handwriting and managed to link these differences to certain personality traits. Graphologists can tell whether someone is introverted or extraverted; calm or anxious and even whether they have psychotic tendencies. The police have used graphologists to help them solve crime, so it is taken seriously by many people.
I find the subject fascinating. I often change my handwriting style, depending on what mood I’m in and therefore I feel there is definitely something in this. If I’m feeling a little bit run down and need time to myself, for instance, I prefer to write with a slight leftwards slant to my letters (which means the person is introverted and likes to be alone); however, my usual writing style has a slight slant to the right, which means the opposite.
I will be giving you some more lessons on graphology, over the course of this blog, and I hope you find it as intriguing as I do. You will be shocked at how accurate it is.
If you’re sceptical, think about this – how many of you can understand your doctor’s handwriting? Doctors tend to have more important things on their mind than neat handwriting and their high intelligence level can lead to a certain type of handwriting. I have noticed that individual GPs in my local doctor’s surgery all tend to have a similar style of writing, which shows they are similar people.
As with anything, though, there are exceptions to the rule; however, graphology deals with general meanings for certain handwriting traits and it is the combination of all of these that create the differences between individuals with similar handwriting.
Wednesday, 16 October 2013
I have already told you how listening to the words people say can help you build rapport with them, but there is a lot more to NLP than this. NLP is a great tool for salespeople – I know; I’ve been there. It worked for me and it can work for you, too. You don’t even have to be in sales to benefit from using NLP. It can improve your communication skills and the way you relate to others, which can lead to all sorts of opportunities opening up for you.
I am going to show you an NLP trick, which is great for public speakers, as you can get an idea of what people are thinking, just by looking at their eyes. This isn’t always a hundred per cent accurate, though, as the results are reversed if a person is left-handed and, if you are stood in front of a room full of strangers, you won’t know which of them are left-handed.
Anyway, here it is…
What the position of someone’s eyes means
Eyes looking up and to their left – they are remembering a picture or playing a scene in their head.
Eyes looking up and to their right – they are creating a picture in their head - imagining how something might look.
Eyes looking horizontally to their left—they are remembering a sound/conversation
Eyes looking horizontally to their right – they are imagining a sound in their head.
Eyes looking down and to their right—they are accessing their emotions
Eyes looking down and to their left --- they are indulging in self-talk
Now that you know what these mean, you can change your tactics if you are involved in a sales meeting or presentation. If you see everyone’s eyes moving up and to their right (your left) then this could be a sign that your sales pitch is working as the person is most likely picturing the product and how they can use it. If you see then looking up and to their left (your right) then they may be daydreaming and you may consider using another strategy.
I hope this has helped. NLP is a great toolkit for understanding people and improving your communication skills and I would recommend you look into the subject further, if you feel it will benefit you, too. I will be updating this blog with useful posts on NLP, so keep reading!
Wednesday, 9 October 2013
If you’ve read my previous posts on tarot, you will know that I like to give you my initial impressions of the card before reading the official interpretation given in the guide book. I do this because tarot is intuitive. If you want to be a good tarot reader, you will need to rely on your intuition as well as the meanings you read in the guide book. Sometimes, you may feel that the official meaning isn’t the right one. This is fine. If you believe that your interpretation of the card is more meaningful to you, then use that when reading for yourself or others. With practice, you will come to rely on your own impressions more and more and will probably discard the guide book that comes with the pack.
My intuitive thoughts about the magician card
My first impression of the magician is that it’s a good card. I believe that this card has to do with manifestation and using the Law of Attraction to create a better life for oneself. I think it relates to the querant (the person who is having the reading done) and means that they have the power to change their life for the better and to achieve their goals. Magician means magic and I feel that it is a nice card as it means bringing a little magic into one’s own life, or the lives of others.
The traditional meaning of the magician card
Creativity – the querant is very creative or has the chance to be creative. If the querant isn’t getting the chance to use their creative talents there may be some frustration. This links with my intuitive thoughts as creativity is also linked to the Law of Attraction – creating the life you want.
Control – the querant has a lot of control over their life. Again, this links to my original impression as it means the querant has great power to transform their life.
When doing a reading, most tarot readers will focus on the positive aspects of each card; however, sometimes their gut instincts or other cards in the pack will lead them to focus on the negative aspects. This can sometimes be true when the card is reversed (drawn upside down).
Traditional negative meanings of the magician card include using power to control others or perhaps being drawn into the dark arts or trying to cause harm to others.
Tuesday, 8 October 2013
Self-esteem is one of the most valuable qualities a person can have. If you believe in your skills and abilities then you are more likely to achieve goals you set for yourself, which leads to greater rewards. The lack of self-esteem, or self-belief, can cause many problems in your life.
Why do I have low self-esteem?
Most people have low self-esteem because of their early childhood experiences. If parents, or teachers, were constantly putting you down, or telling you that you won’t amount to anything, then it’s hardly surprising that you will feel worthless now that you are an adult. These experiences will be stored as limiting beliefs in your subconscious mind and, even if you don’t think about your childhood, they will still be affecting all aspects of your life now that you are an adult. It is hard to remove limiting beliefs, once they have fixed themselves inside the part of your mind that governs your thoughts, feelings and life in general.
How can I improve my self-esteem?
You can start to improve your self-esteem by stopping and thinking when you catch yourself using hurtful words towards yourself. If you find yourself thinking how fat and ugly you are, for example, change these words to something more comforting, such as 'I am slim and beautiful'. This is the first step. The next step is to write down some positive affirmations. They are always written in the present tense and contain positive words that describe how you'd like to be. If you lack confidence, you can say, 'I am a confident, successful woman', for example. Keep saying your affirmations to yourself at least ten times per day. You can say it quietly, inside your head or you can say it out loud. You can even record them and play them on your mp3 player as you go about your daily activities, or just before you go to sleep. Once you have done this for a while, you should be feeling better; however, the conscious mind will know that you are telling little white lies, and you'll need to do even more...
Next steps to improving self-esteem...
If you aren't sure what I'm talking about here, you can read my other posts about your mind and how it works, to give you a more detailed explanation. In order to improve your self-esteem on a more permanent basis, you will need to let your subconscious mind know that you have changed the way you see yourself. The best way to do this is through self-hypnosis or subliminal meditation.
What is subliminal meditation?
Subliminal meditation is when affirmations are sent directly to your subconscious mind without the conscious mind knowing you aren't telling the truth. Let me explain...if you are overweight and you've been repeating the affirmation, 'I am slimmer than I've ever been', then your logical, conscious mind will know this isn't true...But, if you send this affirmation to your subconscious mind without your conscious mind knowing, then you will start to change your body image, first mentally and emotionally and then it will manifest in reality. There are many subliminal meditations you can watch for free on Youtube. The best ones use binaural beats to put your mind into a meditative state so that the subliminal affirmations can go directly to the subconscious, where they're needed.
You can get subliminal meditation videos and mp3s for all aspects of self-development from increasing confidence to earning more money. Why not visit Youtube and take a look. I like the igodmind channel. I often use some of these videos when I work on my own self-development and I have noticed significant improvements after watching them.
Sunday, 6 October 2013
The astrological second house is concerned with finances, wealth and the things we value; this includes our own sense of self-worth and how much we value ourselves.
There is a link between our sense of self-worth and the amount of money we earn. You have to believe in your own capabilities before you can expect to earn money for them. If you feel worthless and have nothing to offer, then that is what you’ll get back.
When planets are transiting your astrological second house, your finances, wealth and values will be activated. This can be either good or bad, depending on the planets that are in there and the aspects they are making to each other. For example, if you have Jupiter and Venus in a beneficial aspect, then you can expect some good luck in the areas of wealth, finances and values. If you have Saturn in your astrological second house, then this isn’t so good. I will be talking more about the planets and the effects they can have on your life in later posts; however, Saturn is known as the strict teacher and disciplinarian of the Zodiac. It is Saturn’s job to teach us lessons and help us to grow – this usually happens by it subjecting us to challenging situations. It is like a strict parent, or teacher, in that it wants us to do things by ourselves, without any help, so that we become stronger and more independent.
Saturn in the second astrological house, therefore, means you will be tested in the areas of finance, wealth and sense of self value. Every cloud has a silver lining though, and once Saturn has left the astrological second house, you are likely to be in a much better position than before it came to challenge you. It will make you take a good look at yourself, and your finances, and help you improve things in this area.
If you have a lot of planets in your astrological second house, in your natal chart, you can be sure that this house will be important for you; part of your destiny will be linked to the nature of this house and you can expect to have many life experiences revolving around finances, wealth or your sense of self-value.
One lesser meaning of this house is the sense of the other things you value, such as family, friends and other personal possessions; however, there are other astrological houses that place more importance on these things and therefore the astrological second house is usually linked to your values and the way you see yourself.
Saturn is currently in Scorpio. If you are a Libra (like myself) then Saturn is currently transiting your astrological second house and you may understand exactly what I’ve been talking about in this post. You may be going through a particularly challenging time right now, but you can rest assured that things will improve as Saturn gets ready to leave and you will be glad that it came to stay for the past couple of years.
Friday, 4 October 2013
I mentioned in my last post that, when you start learning how to read the tarot cards, you should, first of all, take a good look at the card and listen to your intuition – how does the card make you feel? Tarot is an intuitive divination tool and your first impressions and intuitive feelings are important. When you have done this, take a look at the meaning given in the accompanying guide. More often than not, you will find that your initial impression was spot on.
When I first started learning tarot, I used my intuition to interpret the meaning of each major arcana card. My first intuitive impression of the fool was of somebody who is foolish, but not because they are stupid in any way. I interpreted it as being somebody who doesn’t look before they leap – they are impulsive, full of life and quite childlike in their excitement and passion for life. You may think the same, when you hold the fool card and use your intuition to help you interpret its meaning.
The traditional meaning of the Fool Card in the Tarot
I was amazed at how accurate my first impression of the fool card was. It is traditionally somebody who is back at square one (which is why the card is traditionally numbered 0) and they are ready to start a new adventure – whether it is getting a new job, travelling or buying a house. The person is excited to be given a fresh start and is looking forward to an adventure; however, their childish excitement may lead to a downfall if they rush into things too quickly without weighing up their options. This is exactly what I meant by the person not looking before they leaped!
I hope this has given you a better idea of what the fool card means and how accurate your intuition can be when learning each card for the first time. The fool is ready for adventure; eager and enthusiastic they have everything they need to start afresh, but they need to make sure they’ve weighed up all their options and undertaken a risk assessment before making their final decision.
Join me next time when I look at the next card in the major arcana –the magician. If you are using my posts to learn how to read tarot, why not use your intuition to think about what the magician card may mean, before my next post.
Wednesday, 2 October 2013
Anyone who knows me or who has read my books will know exactly how strongly I believe in angels. Not everybody does, I know that, but there has been a noticeable increase in the amount of people who are admitting they too believe in angels. From actresses to politicians, there is no specific type of person who believes in angels – it is a matter of your own life experiences and religious beliefs.
You don’t have to be particularly religious to believe in angels; however, a lot of organised religions mention angels in their Holy texts and scriptures. They all share the common belief that angels are messengers of God and they’re here to help us grow as individuals and protect us as we do this. Angels are mentioned quite frequently in the Bible – the angel Gabriel being just one.
What are angels?
Angels are spiritual beings. They live in Heaven alongside God, but they are able to come to Earth. They can be male or female, but some people believe they are asexual - they are neither male nor female because they are pure spirit. Angels are pure spirits that have never been, and will never become, human; although there have been many stories of them taking on human form to help someone in need. We all have a guardian angel who is with us from birth and who will continue to be with us until our time on Earth is done. It is their job to protect us. They will step in to save us if we are in danger and it isn’t our time to die.
Why do angels want to help us?
Angels are holy; they live alongside God and, like God, they only want the best for us. They aren’t allowed to interfere in our lives as we have free will. Although we are destined to fulfil our life’s purpose, we are supposed to learn lessons as we go along. We learn more from failures than we do successes. Having said this, God and the angels want us to have a happy and fulfilling life, free from worry, and so, if you want life to run more smoothly, or you are having a really bad time, you can ask your angels for help. They are not allowed to interfere otherwise.
Why should I ask the angels for help and not God?
As I said earlier, angels are God’s helpers and messengers. You can ask the angels for help, or you can ask God – it is a matter of preference. God works in mysterious ways and if he feels the angels can help then I am sure that he will send angelic assistance to you.
How will I know if an angel is with me?
If you find a perfect white feather in an unusual place, then this is a sign that the angels have heard your request and are with you. If you find three white feathers in succession then you can be sure that your prayers have been heard and the angels are doing their best to help you with your problems. Sometimes, you may feel a brush against your cheek or smell beautiful roses. Some people report hearing heavenly music that they couldn’t explain, while others claim to have met an angel in human form. It is very rare that angels will appear in their traditional form; however, there have been some historical reports of angels appearing with wings. I can’t recall the exact story, but I seem to remember a historical account written by soldiers in the First World War, of an angel visitation that was witnessed by both sides. I find angel encounters fascinating and I would love to hear from you if you have had an angel experience. I have had several and I have written some in my free eBook that you can download from www.smashwords.com.
Monday, 30 September 2013
Today, I want to give you an overview of the tarot. I have always been interested in all forms of divination, particularly the tarot, from a young age; however, I have always felt a little bit scared of the tarot cards. I think this was because they used to have a reputation for being the devil's playthings! I avoided them because of this, preferring to concentrate on angel cards or ordinary playing cards for divination purposes.
It was only when I attended a Mind, Body and Spirit fare with my mum and sister, that I realised that this wasn't true of the tarot at all. I sat in a workshop led by a very charismatic woman - she was brilliant. She was down to earth and dressed in a very smart business suit. She opened the session by talking about the tarot's bad reputation. She said that the tarot was nothing to be scared of and it was purely a tool to help us listen to our intuition.
She told us that the best way to get started as a tarot reader, was to use our intuition and gut feeling when looking at each card. She said that, as it was a tool for our intuition, then we would get a gut feeling of what each card represented and we should do that before looking at the card's meaning in our tarot books.
One exciting part of the session was when she asked for four volunteers. My sister and I were one of the first to raise our hands and we were chosen to participate. We were asked to go to the front and take a tarot card. These cards were huge. We both took one and sat back in our seats. We were told not to look at them. The other two participants were a glamorous woman who was with her toddler and an older woman.
We were then asked to look at our cards and think about what it meant to us. My card was the lovers card. It made me feel happy to get this card. I saw it as a joyful card and, as I have been with my other half for almost 19 years, I saw it as a sign that I was in the right relationship for me. My sister got the tower. She said it made her feel like she was going to escape from a negative situation and break free of something that's been making her feel trapped.
Once we had all decided on our individual card's meaning we were told to go up and tell the rest of the room our impressions. The woman said that we were all right in our explanations. She also said that we all chose the cards that were meant for us and our current situation. It was amazing how accurate each card was for the people concerned.
I am going to be giving you more information on the most popular tarot cards over the coming weeks and I intend to put together a short tarot reading course too, for those of you who are interested in taking this further.
The tarot cards can be a great tool for connecting with your higher self, so don't be scared of any negative associations they may have. I certainly haven't had any bad luck since using them.
Saturday, 28 September 2013
I am going to be talking, over the coming weeks, about the astrological houses. As you may only be aware of the zodiac signs, I feel that teaching you more about the houses may be more interested and enlightening for you.
The first house, in astrology, is the ascendant. It is the house where your rising sign resides. Therefore, if you are a Leo and you have Cancer rising, the cancer will be your first house and Leo will be your twelfth house.
The first house, in a person's natal chart, relates to the person themselves. It is their personality, their appearance, their likes, dislikes - their overall persona. A lot of astrologers believe that a person is more like their rising sign than any other aspect of their horoscope and, as the rising sign, is in the first house, this explains why.
If you have planets in your first house, they can affect the individual's personality or appearance or any other aspect to do with them as person. For example, I have three planets in my first house, but the most predominant planet (because it is almost directly on my ascendant) is Jupiter. This is considered to be the lucky planet. Therefore, because it is in my first house, it means I am considered to be a naturally lucky person. If Jupiter was in my fourth house then I would be lucky when it came to my home or property and if it was in my seventh house I would have a lot of luck when it came to relationships. I hope this explains a little better how planets in the first house work.
When looking at the first house, it is also important to look at what sign the first house is in. In this example, the first house is cancer, which means the person is likely to be very maternal, in touch with their feminine side and a home-body . If we link this with the person's sun sign, of Leo, we can see that the energetic, extrovert qualities of Leo may be toned down with the more laid-back qualities often present in Cancer.
If you want to understand more about what the transit of a planet means for you right now, you can see if there are any planets in your first house by using a transit app or by watching one of the astrology videos I mentioned. At the moment, I have saturn in my second house, which means that I am learning hard lessons about my self-worth, money and my sense of values. If you are a Libra, then this is also true for you right now.
As you may be starting to realise, astrology is a very in-depth subject, yet it can bring up some fascinating insights. Next time, I am going to be discussing the second house in more detail.
Thursday, 26 September 2013
NLP stands for Neuro-Linguistic-Programming. Neuro means the nervous system. linguistic refers to speech and programming refers to changing patterns of thinking.
As an NLP Practitioner, I often help clients change the way they think about things, using NLP techniques. Sometimes it isn't the situation we find ourselves in that is unbearable, it is the way we view the situation. For example, if we are out having a lovely picnic and it pours down with rain, we will start thinking negatively. We will hate the fact that it's decided to rain and ruin our nice day out. We will most likely curse the British weather (if you live in the UK, you will know what I mean!) and moan for the rest of the journey home. If you are a farmer, who has been worrying about his crops for two weeks, you may be dancing for joy!
The above example illustrates how the same event can cause two different reactions depending on how the person sees the situation. NLP can help those of us who struggle to see the positive side of situations.
As well as this, NLP is a useful tool when you want to communicate effectively with someone. It is particularly beneficial for sales people and those who want to build up a rapport with another person. Before I became aware of NLP, my employer sent me on a top sales course. It was very expensive and thought to be the one of the best sales courses in the UK. I learnt a lot on the course and it was only recently, when I qualified as an NLP Practitioner, that I realised most of the units on the course were based on NLP.
I am going to let you in on a little secret, used by those who know about NLP. You can build up a rapport with someone and get them on your side, just by listening to the words they use. Then you can match your words to theirs and you'll have more chance of closing a sale.
Visual - if the person says things like ' I see what you mean' or 'Iet's all take a look' or 'my view is'. Each of these phrases shows that the person is a visual person as they use words such as look, view and see.
Auditory - if the person says things like 'I hear what you're saying' or 'keep the noise down!' you will know they are an auditory person and you will work well with this person if you can match the tone, pace and loudness of your voice, to match theirs.
Kinaesthetic - if the person says 'I feel weird about this' or 'let's throw some ideas around' you will do best with this person if you use a lot of actions, gestures and use similar words.
It can be difficult, at first, to match the words of the other person without it looking obvious or contrived; however, with practice it will start to come naturally to you. I got more sales using these techniques than I ever did before, but it isn't just sales that can benefit from these techniques. If you've not been getting on with somebody, it may be because you are a visual person and they are an auditory person, for example. If you can start to match words to build a rapport with them, you may find your communication with this person improves dramatically.
Have fun with it.
Tuesday, 24 September 2013
I am a great fan of the Law of Attraction. For those of you who don't know about it, I am going to give you a brief overview.
The Law of Attraction is basically a natural, or spiritual law, that exists, whether or not we believe in it. It is like the law of gravity. We can't see it, but because it has been scientifically proven, we know it exists and we believe it.
Unlike the Law of gravity, the Law of Attraction hasn't been scientifically proven and therefore, some dispute its existence. Basically, the Law of Attraction states that what we focus on becomes our reality or like attracts like. This is all well and good if we are focusing on good things, but how many of you constantly focus on all of the negative things around you and worry about what may go wrong all the time.
If you do this, then the universe will bring you the same sorts of things that you are worrying about. If you constantly worry about how you're going to pay your bills, you will attract more of that negativity to you so that you find it increasingly harder to pay your bills in reality. If you want to use the Law of Attraction to your benefit, it would be better to think about having more than enough money to pay your bills each and every month. Imagine yourself smiling as you write out each cheque to your energy suppliers. Never begrudge paying any bill. Think about what having gas and electricity does for you. What would you do without it? You need power to cook, keep warm and for in-home entertainment. Think about how much you appreciate these things, the next time you pay the bill. These are the sorts of thoughts and feelings that the universe likes. The Law of Attraction is then more likely to send you more money to pay your bills because it knows you appreciate these things in your life.
Even if you don't believe in the Law of Attraction, it is still working. So isn't it better that you try to think positively? That way, whether you believe in it or not, you are still giving yourself the chance to have a better quality of life. It is at work in all aspects of your life from relationships and career to money and other material goods. You can attract the things you want, if you learn how to use this spiritual law to its full effect. Cosmic Ordering has become popular lately and this is because it uses the Law of Attraction to help you get those things you dream of.
If you want to know more about the Law of Attraction then why not take a look at my ebook catalogue? I talk about it in most of my books because I've seen how powerful it is when used properly and I want to share the secret with you, so that you can also achieve your goals and live the life you deserve.
Sunday, 22 September 2013
Self-development or self-improvement has become very popular, lately. There are countless self-help books available and many internet gurus are emerging that aim to help people totally change their lives.
All of these things are great, but maybe you feel overwhelmed by the amount of resources available to you and you don't know where to start.
If you want to start improving yourself, then I suggest you firstly think about what aspect of yourself you'd like to change. I believe that everybody is capable of achieving whatever it is they want to achieve. Anything is possible, if you believe it.
If you have read a lot of my previous work, you will know that I am passionate about the power of belief. Your beliefs are so important. If you believe something will happen, then it most likely will. Research has shown that patients who were given placebos instead of real medicine, made the same, or greater, improvements in their health than those patients who were given real medication. Doctors state that this was because those patients believe they were getting real medication. They expected to be cured and they were.
If you want to improve any aspect of yourself or your life, then it all starts with believing you can change and improve. There are many ways you can work on your self-development, from reading books to attending courses. You could work alongside a life coach, who will motivate you to make positive changes in your life, or you could watch self-development videos or listen to mp3s that aim to work on your subconscious mind, so improvements are made to your thoughts and belief system.
There is always something we can do to develop ourselves, whether it's learning a new language or attending assertiveness classes. Find out what it is that's holding you back and see if there is a book, course or other resource that will help you to do this. We should never stop learning - it keeps our brains active and gives us something to work for. We should all have goals that we're working towards as it gives us the motivation to get up in the morning.
Research has shown that people who retire often end up depressed or they experience a rapid decline in health. I think this is because they don't have any reason to get out of bed. Their job gave them something to do and, unless they replace this with something else, it is easy to get into a state of inertia.
Try not to do too much at once, find the most crucial area you feel needs developing or improving and work on that first. You will then have the confidence to move onto any other areas that you feel may be holding you back from achieving the life of your dreams.
If you have read any of my books on The Law of Attraction, you will understand that I believe in its power to change your life. The Law of Attraction is real. It works, whether you believe it or not - just like gravity! The best thing to do is to make it work for you by making sure you only attract the best of what life has to offer you.
If you want to attract a partner, there are a few things you can do:
- Focus on what you do want from a partner, not what you don't want!
- Keep visualizing your perfect partner in your mind - what does he or she look like etc.
- Ignore any negative self-talk or thoughts about you not deserving a decent partner.
- Act as though you already have a partner - have you noticed you always get hit on more when you have a steady bf or gf?
- Expect your partner to appear very soon.
One of the most crucial aspects of working with The Law of Attraction, is expectation - if you don't believe or expect your perfect partner to turn up, then it is likely that he or she won't. You need to believe that you can attract the partner of your dreams and you need to believe you deserve to have happiness.
These are just a few starting points to get you on the right track. If you want to know more, check out my eBook catalogue. I have written a couple of eBooks especially for those of you who have tried everything but still haven't found the love of your life.
The Law of Attraction may be the last piece of the puzzle - it may be the one thing that can help turn your life around. It doesn't matter if you are male, or female - The Law of Attraction is waiting for you right now. Why not take a look?
Friday, 20 September 2013
Astrology is more complicated than you may realise. If your knowledge of astrology is based on reading your horoscope in the daily newspapers, then you have a lot to learn!
A lot of people believe astrology is a load of old rubbish. They say that horoscopes are all made up and that it is impossible for everyone to have the same things happen to them. I can understand their point of view, based upon sun-sign astrology. Some of these horoscopes are unreliable and can give astrology, as a science, a bad name.
Astrology is more than just your sun-sign. The horoscopes in the newspapers are based upon where the sun was when you were born. Even if you don't believe in astrology, you most likely know what 'star-sign' you are.
If you want a more accurate astrological reading, you should find out what your moon and rising signs are. Your rising sign is the sign that was rising in the East, when you were born and the moon sign is the sign the moon was in, when you were born. If you then read your horoscopes for each of these signs, you will get a better, more accurate reading.
The Natal Chart
Another major part of astrology, is the preparation of natal, or birth charts. These contain some quite complex calculations and depict where every planet was, at the time of your birth. The chart is made up of a circle that is divided into twelve equal segments. These are called houses. The first house is the sign that was rising in the East. This is also called the rising sign, or the ascendant. The first house is you - it's your personality, your appearance and how you appear to others. If your rising sign is Leo, for instance, you may be cheerful, bossy and have beautiful hair. Your moon sign is linked to your thoughts and has some connection to your mother. Your sun sign is the least important of these three signs in terms of daily horoscopes. It is recommended that, from now on, you read your rising sign first, then your moon sign and then your sun sign.
Astrology is a very complicated subject, but it is also very fascinating. If you look at some of the birth charts of famous people, past and present, you will be amazed at how accurate their birth charts are. Some famous people consult astrologers before making any major decisions, such is the accuracy of some of the planetary alignments.
When the planets move around the Zodiac, it affects each of us in different ways, depending on the position of planets in our natal charts. It can also affect us depending on the house the planet is occupying. At the moment, we are experiencing several rare planetary alignments that have the power to change society as we know it for now and into the future. I am a Libra, with Scorpio rising and Saturn (the great teacher) has been in Libra since 2009 and has now moved into Scorpio. I have been through some great upheavals during this time and my life has changed dramatically. When Saturn enters your sun, rising or moon sign, expect challenges. These challenges are sent to make us stronger, yet they can feel difficult when we are experiencing them directly.
On the other hand, I now have Jupiter (the lucky planet) in my career sector and I am therefore expecting lots of opportunities to open up for me, in this area.
If you are interested in learning more about astrology, there are several books available. I like to watch my monthly horoscopes on YouTube. There are lots of video astrologers on there; however, my favourites are Michele Knight, Scarletmoononline and Mrs Moreful. I also enjoy reading my monthly horoscope on Susan Miller's website. She is amazing and very accurate.
Good luck and enjoy!
Wednesday, 18 September 2013
As a qualified Life Coach, I am often surprised when people ask me for all kinds of advice. Friends and family are the worst - they think that, because I am a trained Life Coach, that I automatically know how to help them make major life decisions. This is not what life coaching is all about. A life coach is someone who is trained to help people make their own decisions and make the best life choices based on the options available to them.
There are some who specialise in one life area such as career or relationships; however, I like to work with all areas of life. I believe that a person's life is better if all areas are balanced and I also believe that issues in one area can affect another. When I get a new client, the first thing I will do is to get them to fill in their personal details and a questionnaire based on what they want to achieve. I will then ask them to do certain tasks which will give me a good idea of where they are in their life and where they want to be. I can then put a plan together, in conjunction with my client, so that we can find the best ways to address any issues and formulate a plan, or goal, that the client can work towards.
Contrary to popular belief, life coaches are not allowed to give advice. In these times of compensation culture, it is partly down to avoiding the risk of being sued, but it is also because we want to encourage our client's to make the right decisions by themselves so that they can continue to do this independently in the future. Unlike counsellors or psychiatrists, a life coach's relationship with their client is likely to be a relatively short one, lasting a year at the most. I am not trained to 'cure' any underlying issues or trauma that a client may have. It is certainly not my job to deal with psychological problems or issues caused by abuse. These are best left to a qualified medical professional who is able to provide medication or other forms of treatment.
My job, as a life coach, is to motivate a person to achieve their goals. I like to use a variety of methods, from setting targets to utilising other tools such as NLP. A good life coach will help a client to stick to their goals and motivate them to keep going, when they feel like giving up. Sometimes people have things they want to achieve, but they lack the motivation to get started. If there is something you 'd like help with, or you are the sort of person who needs somebody to bounce ideas off, or to help you stick to a goal or decision, then you may want to consult a life coach. I am hoping to offer an online life coaching service, in the future but, for now, I suggest you look to see if there are any life coaches available for consultations in your local area. I'm sure you'll find it useful.
Love, Mochira X
Monday, 16 September 2013
If you have ready any of my eBooks, you will know that I believe in the power of Cosmic Ordering, and that it has worked for me several times over the past couple of years.
What exactly is Cosmic Ordering?
Cosmic Ordering is when you send an intention out into the universe and await its arrival. If you want a new car, for instance, then you would ask the universe for a new car. It isn't always this simple, though. There are a lot of things that can go wrong when you are doing a cosmic order. If you don't phrase it right, you may end up with something similar to your original request, but not exactly what you wanted. If you are too desperate, then you may not even get your order at all.
It is important to avoid negatives when placing orders. If you say something like, 'I don't want to be overweight', the universe will ignore the negative word and it will hear, 'I want to be overweight' and that is exactly what you'll get; so, if you already overweight then nothing will change. You should also put a date on it so that you know when you can expect your order to be delivered.
A lot of the time, we do manage to get exactly what we asked for. This can sometimes cause issues, because when we get what we want, we may be disappointed or there may be a catch. I will give you an example - when I wanted a new job, I asked for something that will allow me to work in a team of friendly people; let me use my current skills and experience; that involved helping others and was run by an understanding boss who wasn't a bully. I asked for all of these things because I knew they were what I wanted in a work environment. I'd had previous jobs where I'd been well-paid, yet I found the work stressful and boring. These jobs were often made worse by female bosses who enjoyed undermining me.
I was excited to receive my order by my expected completion date and the job was everything I'd asked for but, there was a downside. The pay for the job was very low. I accepted the job on the condition that, after a three-month probationary period, the wages would increase to the going rate for that type of job. Unfortunately, this didn't happen and I ended up leaving. I then realised that I should have given money more importance when I'd placed my order. Sometimes, we don't think something is important, or we think the universe will understand that we need to be well-paid, but it doesn't always work like this.
The universe provides. Ask and you will receive. Be careful what you ask for, you might just receive it and realise it wasn't what you truly wanted.
If you want to find out more about Cosmic Ordering and how you can use it to improve all areas of your life, check out my eBook catalogue.
Saturday, 14 September 2013
I chose to study psychology for my degree, because I've always been interested in the power of the mind and I wanted to find out more.
I wanted to explain a little bit about the mind itself. The mind is thought to reside inside the brain and it is divided into two parts: the conscious mind and the subconscious mind.
The Conscious Mind
You use your conscious mind when you are concentrating on something, such as calculating a sum or doing a complicated puzzle. It is when you are fully aware of what you are doing and everything around you. Your conscious mind is at work during an emergency situation, when you need your wits about you.
It works mainly on logic and it likes to find explanations for things. If you thought you saw a ghost, for example, your conscious mind will try to rationalise this and come up with several realistic explanations. The conscious mind is at work when we learn new skills. Remember how hard it was when you first started learning to drive? Your conscious mind was working overtime, helping you to assimilate all of the information.
The Subconscious Mind
You don't know when you are using your subconscious mind; that is the difference.
Your subconscious mind is the mind that is at work when you are not aware of your surroundings. When you are asleep, your subconscious mind brings you dreams. It is also at work when you are in a meditative state or under hypnosis.
Your subconscious mind stores all of your memories because there isn't enough room in your conscious mind. These memories are buried deep, yet they can be accessed during hypnosis, or if something occurs that triggers a memory, such as a certain smell, for instance.
Your subconscious mind is the part of your mind that can have positive or negative effects on your life, depending on the beliefs that are stored inside. Read my post on removing limiting beliefs for more information about this.
The Higher Mind
Although this is not strictly a part of your mind itself, it is something that can be accessed via your subconscious mind. The Higher Mind is thought to consist of the unconscious thoughts of humanity, past and present. It is often known as the collective unconscious and it is believed that it is the source of wisdom. The Higher Mind can be accessed during meditation. Some very spiritual people believe that the higher mind can allow connection with God. During meditation some people can receive messages or insights that can help them to resolve problems in their lives and this is often because they have connected with the higher mind, or a higher power for answers.
All of this may sound complicated; however, it is the subconscious mind that I am most concerned with. I believe that it is highly powerful and, when trained properly, can help you to achieve your biggest dreams. I will write more in future posts. I hope this has explained how your mind works and that you found it useful.
When I talked about the power of thought, in a previous post, I mentioned that it was a long, complicated topic, which needed a lot more than just one post.
I am going to be talking to you, today, about limiting beliefs. You may not be aware of it, but there are negative beliefs stored in your subconscious mind.
These negative beliefs can undermine anything you try to do, without you even knowing. Negative beliefs are also known as limiting beliefs, because they limit your opportunities.
How are limiting beliefs formed?
When you are younger, you are inexperienced and rely on those in authority to teach you what's right and wrong. Unfortunately, your young mind is like a sponge; it soaks up everything it can - this includes negative words and situations.
I will give you an example, to explain this further. Perhaps, when you were at school, a teacher told you that 'you're such a stupid child!'. Although this doesn't happen today, it did happen in the 70s and 80s. Hearing that would have made you feel bad. If you had then gone home and your parents said something similar, you would then start to think you were stupid. Even though you are now an adult and don't remember this part of your life, as much, this limiting belief will have been stored in your subconscious and it will be continuing to have a negative effect on your life. Perhaps you don't apply for jobs that you would be perfect for, because deep down inside, you still feel stupid. Maybe you have issues with authority and prefer to work for yourself. These are just some of the ways that something that happened as a child can affect your life today.
Limiting beliefs can also be formed when you soak up impressions from your surroundings. Perhaps, as a child, you saw your parents constantly argueing, and although you weren't entirely sure what they were argueing about, you often heard the word 'money' mentioned. This may have caused you to have negative beliefs about money. Now you're an adult, you may have a limiting belief that money is bad or that you can't have a good relationship unless you have a lot of money. It is strange how the mind can work.
How can I get rid of my limiting beliefs?
If you think that there are limiting beliefs affecting your life, today, then there are ways you can try to get rid of them. We are all human and therefore, it is likely that most of you reading this do have some underlying issue that can be resolved.
One of the first things to do is to look at your current life situation. Is there anything you're not happy with? Do you keep repeating the same patterns over and over? Do you keep telling yourself you're not good enough or do you find yourself thinking other negative thoughts throughout your day?
Get a piece of paper and write down everything you're not happy with and any repeating patterns in your life, including negative thoughts that you have about yourself or situations. For example, if you keep telling yourself that 'people can't be trusted' it is likely that you find yourself meeting people who aren't trustworthy. You need to break this pattern and change this belief.
To do this, you will need to change the negative belief into a positive affirmation. So, instead of thinking 'people can't be trusted' change this to 'People can be trusted'. Say this to yourself several times a day, or write it down somewhere prominent and look at it as often as you can.
You can also try meditation. I will be talking about this more in future posts but, clearing your mind for even a few minutes a day, can help to clear a lot of worries and negative thoughts out of your mind.
I like to use subliminal videos to clear my blockages. This is because, the best way to change your underlying beliefs, is to try to get positive affirmations into your subconscious without the conscious interfering. If you keep telling yourself that 'I am rich', your conscious mind will know that it isn't true, if you aren't rich, and will attempt to block your attempts at changing your thought patterns. Using subliminal videos can help counteract this.
I am embedding a video that I use regularly. Give it a go. It is essential that you use headphones for this as it uses binaural beats, which help you get into a meditative state, which is the best state to be in when trying to work with the subsconscious.
I hope this help and l look forward to hearing from you if you have any positive changes in your life, after doing these exercises.
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Wednesday, 11 September 2013
I want to speak to you today, about the power of thought. You may not be aware of it, but everything you have in your life right now, was brought to you by the power of your thoughts.
This may sound strange, but it's true. It's quite a lengthy, complicated subject to talk about in one blog post and so I will be writing many more posts on this subject, so that you understand it better; however, for now, I want to give you an overview of just how powerful your thoughts are. If you are constantly thinking negative things, such as 'I never have enough money' or 'I'm too fat to get a boyfriend' then this is what will happen to you in reality. This becomes a vicious circle as you then have 'proof' that your thoughts were right.
The next time you find yourself thinking something negative, I suggest you turn it around into a positive statement, which is sometimes referred to as a positive affirmation. So, if you find yourself thinking, or telling somebody, that you never have enough money, change the thought to 'I always have more than enough money'. You will probably feel strange doing this, because you know that it isn't true, but by doing this regularly, you will start to see some positive changes happening in your life.
I am going to be writing many more articles on this topic but, for now, I just wanted to give you an overview. If there is one thing you can do to start improving your life, it's turning negative thoughts into positive affirmations.
I would love to hear how you get on with this. I enjoy reading positive and uplifting stories and I encourage you all to share your experiences on this website - just add a comment!
I will leave it here for now and I will be back soon with some more self-help goodies!
Sunday, 23 June 2013
I didn't want to leave any men out, so I've revamped my "Attract a Man" ebook so that it is suitable for men. So, if you are male, and you want to use The Law of Attaction to help you find a perfect partner, then you can now get your copy of "How to Get a Girlfriend the Cosmic Way" from Amazon and Smashwords and hopefully other online retailers within the next couple of weeks.
I have kept the price low, because I want to help you all realize how powerful the Law of Attraction is for helping you to improve your lives.
I am also currently looking at books and products by other authors and, if I feel any of these can benefit you, then I will be putting reviews of them on this blog and you can also read these to extend your knowledge.
I am going to leave it here and I will be back soon with some more tips on using the power of the universe and your mind, for self-improvement.
Enjoy the rest of your weekend,
Thursday, 20 June 2013
Just to let you know that I have now published this eBook and you can find it on Amazon and Smashwords. It should be distributed to other online retailers within the next couple of weeks.
I am also in the process of revamping this blog. I want it to be more than just a few written posts updated each month. I am looking for other interesting things that I can add and I want it to be somewhere like-minded people can come to learn about the universe, psychology and the power of the mind.
I am also going to be introducing some life-coaching activities, which I am hoping to do on Youtube and import them into this blog.
I am really excited about bringing all this to you, now that I have some more time and things are more settled with me.
I hope you are all well and I look forward to helping you all to improve your lives.
Watch this space!
Friday, 14 June 2013
Just to keep you updated on my current projects. I've now settled into my new house and am hoping to start working on more eBooks. I'm also in the middle of putting together some podcasts and mp3s to help with all aspects of improving ones lifestyle.
Following on from my cosmic ordering book, I'm now writing an eBook helping readers to attract a man using the Law of Attraction. Unlike a lot of other relationship guides, which focus on the practical things people can do to improve this area of their lives, such as changing appearance and going to night classes, my ebook will focus on changing ones mindset and belief system, first and foremost.
It is true that if you don't love yourself, then how can you expect anyone else to love you?
If you feel unworthy of love, then that is exactly what will happen in reality. You won't attract the right people. You may have lots of crushes, who don't like you back or, you may attract abusive relationships.
I hope that some of you may find this ebook useful. I will let you know once it's published.
On another note, I just wanted to mention two things that happened to me yesterday.
1) I ordered tickets for my other half's upcoming milestone birthday, to see a band, a few months back. The tickets I originally ordered were great tickets, on the ground floor near the stage; however, yesterday I got a call from the company I bought the tickets from, to say that the seller could no longer promise me the tickets I'd ordered and so, because I was protected by their consumer guarantee, they were giving me even better front-row tickets. These tickets were more expensive than the ones I'd previously bought and the company were paying the difference in cost. So, I got better, more expensive tickets, without doing anything at all. This is the Universe at work, I just love the Universe!
2) I needed to make a phone call yesterday, and so I picked up the receiver to dial and I heard a female voice on the other end say "Are you still there?" I put the phone down in shock and when I picked it up again it was just the dial tone. I really don't know who this could have been? My phone hadn't range and there was no crackling or anything on the line to suggest a crossed line. I would love to hear comments.
And with that, I'd like to sign off.
Bye for now
Tuesday, 21 May 2013
Sorry I've been away for so long, but I've had so much going on I had to take a break for a while. I have now completed another eBook, which has gone live and I'm currently working on some mp3s and other products which I hope will help people to improve their lives.
I am also going to update this blog more regularly with articles and other feeds that I hope you find useful. I want you to achieve your goals and live the best life you can live and I'm here to help you do it.
Bye for now
Sunday, 6 January 2013
I'm sorry it's taken me until now to wish you all a Happy New Year, but I've been so busy trying to organise all of the projects that I intend to focus on this year. Unlike previous years, where I've been content to just sit back and let things happen to me, (perhaps I leave things to fate a little too much, at times!) I am determined to make things happen this year.
I don't believe in New Year's Resolutions as I feel that they can cause a loss of self-confidence, if they get broken. I prefer to choose my New Year's Goals; things that I want to accomplish. I won't beat myself up if I don't accomplish them; however, I will draw up a written plan, so that I can do small things each day, to get me closer to my goal. I find this type of process works better. I will be disappointed, obviously, if my goals for this year don't work out how I'd planned, but I also believe that what is meant for us won't pass us by.
One of my goals, this year, is to expand my mind and learn some new things. I haven't done any formal study for about two years now - which is a long time for me! I had done some study on astrology, when I was younger, and for various reasons, I didn't pursue it to completion, but I feel now's the time to resume where I left off as I find the whole subject fascinating and I also think it works well with life coaching. On a totally different note, I also wish to learn about web design and try to learn some skills that will keep me up to date with new technology.
I think that the Mayan calender ending, represents the end of one way of life and the start of another. I urge all of you to make this year the year you finally do that thing you've always wanted to do but have been putting off. Start small. Write it down and work out what small things you can do each day to give it the best chance of working. Baby steps, people. Be nice to yourself.
I will keep you updated on how my goals are progressing and I would love to hear from anyone who has read this post and been inspired to go for it! Enjoy 2013. Let's make it the best year ever.